2017 has arrived and the Christmas holidays have drawn to a close. While the return to some semblance of structure will be welcomed, the return to morning madness, frantic searches for missing pieces of school uniforms, lunch-making and bloody homework means that my new yearâ€™s resolution to â€œlive in the momentâ€ will be truly challenged this week.
Looking at the long faces of my children last week as we took down the Christmas tree and packed away the decorations, I reminded them that they have so much to look forward to this year. I spoke to them of upcoming communions and confirmations, mid term breaks and zoo trips and the not too distant return of the longer evenings which means more playtime.
It was then that I had to stop myself. So much time is spent wishing away the now, believing things will be better at this time, that time, holiday time, weekend time and not enough time is spent appreciating what we have in the here and now. â€œYou donâ€™t have to wait until the weekend to have funâ€ I reminded my children. â€œMost of you finish school by 2:25, the evening is your own- if you just got stuck in and got that homework out of the wayâ€.
Unconvinced by my reasonings, the usual protestations about the injustice of life and homework took place, so I persisted. I spoke to them about redirecting the daily effort that they put into complaining, into productivity. I reminded them that if they just focused they could get that homework done in a reasonable time and if they stopped killing each other mid-task they could also sort out their rooms in ten minutes.
â€œThis year I want things to be different, we will enjoy our weekdaysâ€, I insisted ever so slightly manically.
A call came from upstairs to say that there was a half-eaten teacake and the babyâ€™s soother in the bottom of the toilet. For good measure someone had already peeâ€™d on it.
As I fished the offending items from the bottom of the loo another call came, this time to tell me that the dishwasher wasnâ€™t working.
I looked at the soother and tea-cake and thought about the mountain of dishes that would need washing by virtue of the fact that Chicken Tikka Masala was on the menu for dinner tonight. I figure there are exceptions to every rule and this must be one of them.Â This is not a moment I want to live in.Â I want to fast-forward to that moment, when at some stage this week hopefully, the repair man arrives!!